This is echoed by the law of physics - action is equal to reaction. These laws operate most successfully in a conflict situation.

It is difficult to avoid them in life. For some people, a sidelong glance cast on public transport can be considered a conflict. About other people it is said in folk wisdom: “spit in his eyes, everything is God’s dew to him.”

People provocateurs

A person who is happy to get into a quarrel once again can be found quite often, and the conflict does not depend on social status and position. The difference between such a person and everyone else is that he enjoys conflict and by hook or by crook I am ready to insist on my own, without neglecting outright rudeness and insults.

A wise person in such a situation will simply step aside, without stooping to react. But depending on the psychotype, the internal state can be the most unpredictable.

Defense Lessons

Even a sanguine person can survive an insult for a long time, not to mention melancholic and choleric people. What to do if the interlocutor turns out to be an “energy vampire” and deliberately evokes emotions? A common exercise that can be called “I’m in a jar.” You need to imagine yourself separated from the vampire by a glass wall from all sides. Negative energy will be pushed away from the obstacle without affecting the psyche, and the vampire, without feeling the recharge, will calm down the ardor.

Outright rudeness can be avoided if you choose the right people to communicate with. Finding yourself in the company of people who are theoretically capable of insulting, firstly, you do not need to provoke them either with a look or a gesture, and secondly, remember that all people are worthy of respect. If the attack is nevertheless made, but there is no opportunity to leave, then it is worth sympathetically inquiring about his well-being, problems, that is, demonstrate kindness and respect.

An insult can be inflicted without the use of outright rudeness. As a rule, an educated person who is not burdened with moral principles can insult in a veiled manner. Highly intellectual insult is difficult to notice; sometimes only by the reaction of others can one understand that it has taken place. If you don’t have enough knowledge to retort with dignity, you can simply admit that the fact of the insult is understood, there will be no answer, the interlocutor can triumph. Self-control and irony in this case compensate for the lack of knowledge.

You can receive insults when communicating on social networks and forums when discussing any topic. So-called trolls sometimes deliberately provoke their interlocutor to emotions, while resorting to direct insults. Here it is necessary to distinguish between intent and reaction to the next post. In the first case, the easiest way is to blacklist the boor and, if possible, notify the moderators about him. In the second case you can try to find out the cause of the irritation and try to smooth out the tension. If it doesn’t work out, then don’t respond to his posts anymore or follow the troll - “ignore”.

Sometimes, when patience runs out, there is a strong desire to finally respond in kind, to relieve irritation. You should not follow such a desire. A delicate person will suffer after the outburst, and he will be disturbed by the state of the opponent whom he tried to insult, especially if it worked. There is a little children's secret: imagine that you have taken revenge on the offender. The anger will disappear as if by hand, and you will even feel sorry for the stupid and unhappy person.

For every force there is another force. When a person is full of anger and resentment, it is not always possible to remain silent in response to his foul language. Sometimes I want to answer. How to answer without losing your temper and without stooping to the level of your interlocutor?

1. To talk with you on the same level, I need to lie down!..

2. I don’t know what you eat for breakfast, but it really works! Intelligence tends to zero!

3. Just don’t take the headphones out of your ears. God forbid you chill your brain from the inside with a draft.

4. Should I see a psychologist? No, of course, thank you very much for your good advice, but you shouldn’t compare everyone to yourself.

5. You will open your mouth at the dentist.

6. To shock me, you will have to say something smart.

7. One more beep from your platform and your teeth will move.

8. So that you celebrate your wedding at McDonald's.

9. If it gave me pleasure to communicate with females, I would have had a dog long ago.

10. Mind like a shell.

11. Looking at you, I begin to understand that nothing human is alien to God. He has a great sense of humor.

12. Talk, talk... I always yawn when I'm interested!

13. You would decorate the world with your absence, before I took sin on my soul!

14. The only positive quality you have is the Rh factor.

15. I live opposite the cemetery. If you show off, you will live opposite me.

16. Is it you that everyone loves? Oh, well, yes, love is evil...

17. So that you could cover yourself with a teaspoon in the bathhouse!

18. - Girl, are you bored? - Not by that much…

19. Your right to your own opinion does not oblige me to listen to nonsense.

20. - you can’t put “thank you” in your pocket. - you will carry it in your hands!!!

21. Hey, you little rose! The tulip is out of here, otherwise you’ll turn gray like a dahlia!

22. I came to you with greetings, with an iron and a gun

24. It is better to be silent intelligently than to speak stupidly

25. Is this a bunch of words, or do I need to think about it?

26. Sorry for not living up to your stereotypes.

27. In some heads thoughts come to die

28. Him: Shall we go to you or shall we go to me?
She: At the same time. You - to yourself, and I - to myself.

29. Has the verbal oil well dried up?

30. Madhouse on the road, psychos in nature!

31. What are you watching? Are you in a museum or what? Now I’ll arrange a cultural event for you in two acts without intermission! If I give you a slap, your head will fly off

32. What do you think, that if you yell at me louder, I will listen more quietly?

33. Now you can take your glasses home from me. In different pockets.

34. Your style of speech reminds me of the market talk of the distant nineties at the end of the last century.

35. And don't laugh! Laughing for no reason is a sign that a person is either an idiot or a pretty girl. If you want to convince me of the latter, first shave.

How to respond in specific situations. Examples!

1. Agree with the person who insults you. Classic:

- Yes, you are a complete fool and an idiot!
- Yes. I have a certificate too! Do you think it’s very smart to prove something to a fool?

- You're just a fool!
- Agree! This is because you constantly have to talk to fools.

– I’m not satisfied with your answers!
– What questions, such answers!

– Yes, I’m smarter than all of you combined!
- Certainly! After all, you are crazy. I wish I had a watchman for this shed...

2. Take a statement directed at you to the point of absurdity:

- Hey, slow down!
– I can’t, there must be only one brake. (It’s impossible, our pair already has one brake!)

- What are you doing?
- I'm doing it in my pants.

– Why are you scamming me now?
– And now who do you consider yourself to be, a bee or a rabbit?

3. Turn a negative statement into a positive one:

- You are a horse!
– If it weren’t for the suckers, where would you be now?

- There are only idiots around!
– Is it unusual for you to feel smart?

– What kind of phone is being grabbed when I’m talking to you?!
– I also prefer to talk to smart people!

4. Press the person “too weakly.” After all, no one likes to feel like a weakling:

– You’re dancing somehow crappy..
– I’m not dancing, I’m just moving my legs so you don’t crush me... (And you know how great I am at cross-stitching!)

-What are you babbling about?
- It’s strange, but others like my speech... Don’t you have a sense of beauty, or have hearing problems?

– Are you pretending to be smart?
– Do you have problems communicating with smart people?

5. What do you want?

- Well, why are you quiet?
– Did you already want to get to the surgeon’s table by this time?

- Well, who is brave here?
“You talk to me like that, as if your subscription to the emergency room is disappearing.”

– You are a simple housewife!
– Would you like me to be a currency prostitute?

We need to fight rudeness! If, when you are rude, you want to cry, then the interlocutor has achieved his goal. I have asserted myself at your expense and been strengthened by a considerable share of your energy! Do not encourage this behavior under any circumstances!

How to respond to insults from your husband, work colleagues, bosses, on the Internet, at school and other places? To answer this question, you need to find out how to behave in certain circumstances.

We live in an age of speed and radical change. People have stopped communicating, and if they do, it is only in their free time, which is becoming less and less. No, we are not talking about the fact that people do not talk, do not solve problems, labor issues. You can sit next to an employee for years, but still not understand who his family is, whether he has a wife or children. We are talking about something else now - people have ceased to understand each other. Everyone is in the position of a racer - for money, for fame, prosperity, status, recognition, authority, etc. and in the heat of the chase, we don’t notice important moments.

Let's remember our last trip on public transport - metro, bus, trolleybus, tram. Let’s visually imagine the faces of the passengers - everyone is looking in “their” direction, thinking about something and looking more like a bundle of “nerves”. And as soon as there is the slightest provocation, he sits down incorrectly, accidentally steps on his toe, or touches it with his hand. A conflict immediately arises, more like a furious fight between animals - screaming, insults, humiliation, even physical assault.

It’s not in vain that old people say that people have lost something important, a thin thread that promotes complete mutual understanding and harmony. In the old days everything was different. And this is not a myth, but the truth. There were warm words, people supported each other, communicated with neighbors, invited colleagues home for the holidays.

And how wonderfully solemn events were held - May 1, May 9 and other holidays. In the courtyard, tables were lined up, covered with clean and white tablecloths, and on top of that, each resident of the house brought something of his own, homemade and tasty. And what now - there is a feeling that people are trying to look for the worst words and expressions, trying to make their counterpart as painful as possible, to strike in the very heart, to plunge a knife into the back.

How to understand whether they are insulting you or don’t know how to joke

Be that as it may, you should not assume that everyone around you is waiting to inflict insults. Fortunately, there is still Life on this planet, that is, there are still people who are able to behave adequately and not be rude to their neighbors and others. But there are still times when you don’t expect anything bad, and one of your colleagues says something that causes offense and pain. But don't rush to conclusions. Maybe he didn't want to be rude? Or you misunderstood. How to figure it out?

1. Before you get offended, remember, does this person have a reason to offend you?
2. Are his words really perceived only as a deliberate infliction of moral offense? Can they be considered a bad joke?
3. Does the person have a reason to insult you?
4. How a rude person behaves - aggressively or smiling sweetly. Does he try to make you look stupid to others?
5. And finally, the best method, but it concerns clarifying the relationship between close and familiar people. Talk to him and find out what you did wrong, what he wanted to say in his own words. Perhaps you will be able to clarify the situation and put an end to your own doubts.

But even if it was a joke and not entirely successful, stop them immediately. Don't let someone humiliate or insult you, even in a casual tone. No one has the right to inflict moral pain.

Why people are rude: reasons for the increase in aggression

Every day we wonder what is happening to people. Why do they turn into a pack of animals, capable of tearing a person apart. The answers are given by experienced psychologists who study the interaction between people in society. Everything, as it turns out, begins in childhood. And why should there be any surprise? If someone raises their eyebrows, they are clearly disingenuous. All the blame for the aggravation of anger in society lies with adults - parents.

We have little free time. We are chasing earnings, we want to buy an apartment, equip it better, buy a car, wear expensive clothes, go on vacation to the best places. What about the child? Even reading a bedtime story is a problem – there is no time. So that he does not demand attention to himself, we pay off - we give expensive gifts, sweets, then cars, separate apartments. As a result, a natural consumer grows into whose ears words about honor, dignity, good manners, decency, respect for others, etc. were not whispered in a gentle mother’s voice.

School. Here a community of people by interests already arises. And as soon as a child falls into a flock of small “animals,” he immediately tries to adopt their habits. That's right - who wants to stand out from the crowd. You need to be with those who are more numerous, so you have a better chance of staying alive. That is, children disappear into the mass of rude people, since, unfortunately, there are more of them - after all, we are growing a society of consumers.

We are not developing culturally, but good examples of our parents and grandparents were positive heroes: Martin Eden, Jane Eyre, Don Quixote, Robinson Crusoe and other characters from popular works. What now? The maximum that young people can do is watch a film on the Internet. But for the most part, children spend their time in nightclubs, drink enormous amounts of alcohol, smoke tirelessly, and drink energy drinks. You can’t look at their online comments without tears; they’re full of obscenities, swearing, and 5 mistakes in a 4-letter word. It feels like Russian lessons at school have been completely cancelled.

Being angry is fashionable! Yes, this statement is true. We have repeatedly witnessed showdowns on live broadcasts between classmates, students, and young guys. Now there are a huge number of videos on the Internet - reports of the beating of a bad friend or a classmate that he didn’t like. Cruelty breaks records.

Television, films. The main attribute of every home is a TV and a computer. It constantly plays films with rude and boorish characters, because of which a cult of arrogance, aggression and enmity has arisen.

How to properly respond to insults

Now let’s move on to analyzing specific situations that almost everyone without exception faces. After all, both close people - dad, mom, spouse, children - and strangers can inflict moral pain and insult. This is evidenced by a lot of unpleasant stories from school, college, and work. What should be done in such circumstances? After all, few people are able to openly express aggression, much less defend themselves against rudeness and rudeness, which in recent years simply knows no bounds. Advice is given by experienced specialists.

Husband humiliates and insults

As a rule, when a husband begins to offend and morally suppress, to say offensive and humiliating words, the woman does not remain in debt. This is how squabbles and quarrels arise, right up to a complete break in relations. But this is not a solution to the problem. Why destroy a family if you can find a way to suppress your spouse’s aggression. But first you need to find out why he does this.

Reasons for spouse aggression

He's just an evil person. Spoiled by his parents, demanding attention, he is not used to being denied anything. You will have to either re-educate, endure, or break off the relationship. It’s better to try to re-educate, but slowly, without breaking your knee.

There are accumulated problems at work. Talk to him, apparently you have a mistrust, since he does not talk about his troubles in relations with employees and superiors.

You are behaving incorrectly. Please note that maybe your spouse still has reason to be dissatisfied. Of course, insulting and humiliating is the last thing. But it also happens that, not knowing how to influence you, your husband attacks you with unpleasant words and expressions.

You're tired of each other or he doesn't want to be around you anymore. Talk, find out the reason for his anger. If there is no passion and love as before, you are doomed to be irritated. Try to get some rest separately. If this doesn’t help, you are infuriated by his presence, and he is infuriated by yours - get a divorce.

He got another one. This reason will not take long to arrive. He will definitely compare you with the one on the side. Everything is still fresh there, passions are blazing, he wants to plunge headlong into a new relationship. And here you are - the same wife, in the usual robe, with the usual conversations, dishes, etc. Here you need to choose - (which is very difficult) or let him go on all four sides, why endure insults and humiliation.

How to behave if your husband insults you

1. Try to pretend that you are indifferent to his insults. It's not easy to do, but you still have to try. Usually, when uttering unpleasant words, a man waits for an answer - there must be a scandal. It may be stupid, but many people get pleasure from the intensity of the relationship. And then they completely ignore it - it turns out there is no point in scolding, it gives nothing. No continuation!
2. Talk - maybe there is a reason. Clarify the relationship, but try to agree in advance - without raising your tone. Quite often, such conversations help to align the alliance and not create conditions for the development of a larger conflict.
3. Under no circumstances should you respond to him with rudeness. It will only get worse - someone has to be smarter, someone has to give in. Then, when his passions subside, you can talk.
4. If you can’t talk, get out of his sight, maybe into another room, or for a walk. Don't give him a chance to further offend and insult you.

How to respond to harassment at work

We spend most of our lives at work. And, of course, no one is immune from problems in relationships between employees. Therefore, you need to prepare in advance for the possibility that unpleasant situations will arise. How to solve them. Well, don’t leave work after every quarrel or offensive words. Believe me, your next job will be no better; if you don’t know how to collaborate or communicate with society, sit at home and fulfill orders from the Internet. But you should understand that this way you will be deprived of normal, human communication and will very quickly get tired of loneliness, monotony and routine. Work from home should only be done due to existing circumstances. It’s time for you to gain your wits and learn to respond to insults from your colleagues and superiors.

Try to remain silent. This is especially true for situations on the roads, in public transport, and in crowded places. To control yourself, you need to think about it, you need to draw the attention of others to offensive expressions addressed to you.

If the situation arose at work, among classmates and colleagues, silence can play a cruel joke. This is a kind of signal to the offender - you can continue to behave this way in the future, and nothing will happen for it. Therefore, it is absolutely impossible to remain silent in this situation - put the aggressive comrade “in his place” and do not allow him to behave this way again. It will be repeated again - answer the same, draw everyone's attention to his behavior. Let everyone see how disgusting he is in his ugly behavior.

Before responding to rudeness, you should understand with whom you are coming into conflict. And think about whether your answer is worth losing your job or your student ID. But even in this case, a self-respecting person must do at least something to stop the insults. At a minimum, talk, at a maximum, involve third parties and not allow the offender to inflict a moral blow again.

Try to “understand” the offender. This situation concerns those who have been offended by management or a person on whom much depends. Yes, it is not easy, but you need to do this “procedure”. Approach the offender and talk as if you understand that he had no idea of ​​offending you. Indeed, in most cases this is what happens - a person cannot always understand that he did something wrong, said the wrong words, or said too much in a fit of anger. You need to give it time - let it “cool down” and have a conversation. Remind him that you yourself have often found yourself in a position where you reluctantly insulted someone. The main thing is to realize your guilt, identify the causes of the conflict and put an end to mistrust, doubts and quarrels.

How to respond to online abuse

The World Wide Web The Internet is the worst place! In it you can run into such insults that it is incomprehensible to the mind. Moreover, they can cause offense without any reason. There are simply “idiots” who spend all their time on social networks and strive to insult someone. They even have the nickname “troll”, and they “troll” people and provoke them into conflict. What should those who have never thought of entering into an argument with anyone do in such situations?

1. Don't waste your time on fools and don't interact with them. That's what they're waiting for! Otherwise, their activities are simply meaningless. If you don’t answer, he will go crazy, suffer, that is, get what he deserves. And you can only do one thing - laugh at him and not pay attention to his short-sighted, stupid actions.
2. If the abuse continues, contact law enforcement. There is an article that holds trolls accountable for causing a clear insult to the honor and dignity of a person.

How to do it:

• take a screenshot, record the moment of insults;
• try to collect as much information as possible about the troll;
• work with an experienced lawyer;
• write a statement to the authorities and attach all that you have of evidence and information about the offender.

How to respond to bullying at school

In childhood, we hear the first unpleasant things addressed to us. No one can get around this situation, especially those who do not know how to firmly defend themselves. We remember our school years with tenderness, but as soon as moments of humiliation and insults from classmates and high school students arise in our memory, our face immediately darkens. Experts say that children's grievances are experienced very hard by people. Often they accompany a person until the end of his days. What to do to stop bullying at school:

1. Try not to pay attention, but only once. Repeated humiliation must be answered. Talk to this person and ask what he wants from you. There may be a misunderstanding between you that needs to be cleared up.
2. If you can’t resolve the issue peacefully, try to answer. As a rule, boors are confident in their impunity. They create more noise around themselves, although in fact they are cowards by nature. Answer rudely, but don't turn into the same idiot. It doesn’t help, he gathered a group, they continue to put pressure on you - talk to your parents.

Important: you should never be embarrassed to ask your parents for help. School problems can have serious psychological and mental health consequences. They need to be stopped, and the offenders should know that for every rude word there is another word!

Parents whose children are subjected to humiliation need to communicate with their child more often and have frank conversations. Pay attention to whether your beloved child has become withdrawn or nervous. If it happens that he suddenly falls out of love with school, does not want to participate in school events, spend time with classmates, or has no friends in the class, one should be wary. He has very serious problems. The child is hiding everything, talk to his teacher. In any case, do everything to clarify the situation and take action.

In cases where a conflict at school is associated with a group of very aggressive teenagers behaving in a threatening manner - do not be shy, do not be afraid - write a statement to the police, since insults for such “types” are only the beginning, then the moment of assault may come.

How to respond to your wife's insults

It's a paradoxical situation, as some might think. A wife humiliates and insults her husband. You will laugh, but this happens quite often. This can happen either in public or alone with your spouse. The first is a rare case, the second is all too common. Of course, what kind of man wants to admit that he is under the yoke of a fragile woman - no one! The reason for this behavior may be:

1. You did a bad thing, you cheated. She may have forgiven, but she has not forgotten and is unlikely to forget! At every opportunity, he will remind you of your sin and continue to insult and humiliate you.
2. She grew up as a spoiled, inadequate girl, her parents indulged her in everything and encouraged her ugly behavior.
3. From the very beginning, the man did not make it clear that he was the head of the family, and she was the keeper of the hearth, creating comfort. But this does not mean that a man has the right to humiliate his wife.
4. Your significant other is too tired of the endless circle of responsibilities. She simply cannot stand physical exertion and cannot wait for your help. She has no other choice but to express humiliating words and insults at you - this is how she gets rid of accumulated negative emotions. Help her, participate in family life, especially if there are children.
5. The man stopped paying attention to his wife, he no longer sees her as a woman. Yes, worries and troubles play a cruel joke on a woman’s appearance. Give her rest, let her put herself in order and remember her other purposes.
6. The wife grew up in a family where her parents had the same relationship - the mother humiliated and covered her husband with insulting phrases. Now she copies her previous life and projects it onto her relationship with her husband.
7. Your spouse is jealous of your children. You began to spend more time with them, although she also deserves support and communication. She is also annoyed by the fact that the softer, compassionate daddy attracts children more than the domineering and strict mother.
8. Problems with hormonal levels. Negative behavior of the spouse can also be observed during diseases associated with the endocrine system. During pregnancy and illness, she simply cannot control her behavior. You need to see a doctor, and in the case of pregnancy, patience from your husband.

What to do if a child is being abusive

Building relationships with children is not easy. As soon as he reaches adolescence, the desire for independence immediately arises. Children want to break away from their parents and show that they are capable of solving their own problems and finding contacts with the outside world. It is this world that most often becomes the provocateur of a child’s negative behavior. The little person’s own “I” is being formed and the biggest mistake parents make is not understanding the situation. They simply cannot wrap their head around the fact that their child does something without them, stops asking permission for all actions, and sharing secrets. This is how conflict situations arise. What to do?

1. First of all, forget that your child is your property. First of all, you have produced a separate personality, not a free app!
2. Don't lose touch with your child. Do not stop close contact for a day - chat, talk, share secrets (available).
3. There is no need to indulge your child in everything - fulfill only those requests that you can afford.
4. Good deeds should be encouraged - your child honestly deserves it. If you are wrong about something, talk, blame, but don’t pretend that nothing happened. He must know that any negative offense entails punishment.
5. Help them make their desires come true, participate in his aspirations, support him with support and let him know that you believe in all his endeavors, talents and capabilities.

The main thing is to look for common ground and conduct a dialogue with your child, husband, and wife. Be not only a parent, soul mate, but also the best friend of your beloved child, husband, wife. And it is advisable that you maintain friendships for life - and this requires constant work.

In modern society there are many aggressive people, since the frantic pace of life leaves its mark on mood, behavior and interpersonal communication. At a certain period of life, people collide with each other, so avoiding conflicts is quite difficult. Sooner or later you will find yourself in the line of fire with someone who is hurling insults. At such moments, you must fight back your opponent. Some start a fight, others react calmly. Let's consider all the methods in order.

Method number 1. tediousness

1. The boring technique is quite common among intelligent people. If you are superior to your opponents in mental development, consider this option. If your interlocutor is trying to insult you, give him an analogy from scientific literature.
2. For example, you were reproached for having a mess on your desktop, as if you had evolved from a pig. Find your bearings in time and answer: “Darwin has repeatedly proven the fact that pigs are in no way related to humans. They don't work at a desk, so they can't create clutter in the workplace. Read the book to make more accurate arguments in the future!”
3. In addition to the fact that the fact will hurt the offender, the opponent will be confused. You will have enough time to plan further dialogue. Not many people have scientific knowledge; such a move would put the boor in an awkward position.

Method number 2. Ignoring

1. Not every person can muster the will to turn on the ignoring mode, and besides, such behavior is not always appropriate. However, there are often cases when this tactic comes in handy.
2. If the insult is petty, a grin is the best option. Smile at one corner of your lips, thinking to yourself how much better the world would be without fools. If a person is narrow-minded and even stoops to base insults, show contempt.
3. Don't hold back your positive attitude. You can laugh in your opponent's face without responding with words. Make it clear that rudeness does not offend you at all, even if the situation is different.
4. The tactic of ignoring is to prove to your opponent his stupidity. It is possible that he will become even more furious when he sees your reaction. Namely, that his words not only do not bother you, but also amuse you.
5. If the person is sane, you can accompany the smile with a polite phrase. For example, “Is it just me or did you have a bad day?” If a person belongs to the category of boors, your attack will cause even greater discontent.
6. Unfortunately, the modern world is deteriorating, so it is important to use the ignoring technique correctly. It is suitable for arguing with ill-mannered people who do not watch their language.
7. Never try to justify yourself if you see that the insult is inappropriate. Again, it is better to ignore the attacker, smiling maliciously in response. Do not cross into the offender’s territory; such a move will obviously be a losing one.

Method No. 3. Calm

1. The previous options, namely “Ignoring” and “Boring,” are sarcastic methods. You suppress the offender through malice, some kind of mockery. This method differs in that you need to respond to insults in a calm tone.
2. Do not swear, use swear words or raise your voice several tones. Answer with a slight smile and be friendly. Find out what exactly doesn’t suit your interlocutor. Try to analyze the situation “piece by piece”.
3. Such behavior shocks the opponent, and some begin to feel awkward. A conflict situation often ends with an apology from the offender. This option will prevent the scandal from developing into a disaster.
4. If you have peace of mind and want to maintain harmony in your heart, do not respond with anger to an insult. When it is difficult to achieve this, take 5 deep breaths and the same number of exhalations, and then proceed to further dialogue.

Method number 4. Gratitude

1. The technique of gratitude is also called “Aikido”. Of course, experienced specialists do not advise engaging in assault. The technique consists of transferring aggression from the opponent to himself.
2. This option is suitable for people who are offended in the presence of colleagues or other large crowds of people. In such situations, it is important to defend your honor, but it must be done correctly.
3. Tell the other person that you are extremely grateful to him. For what? Because he spent a lot of time listing your shortcomings. Also clarify that you wouldn't do that because you don't care about him.
4. It is important that there is no sarcasm in your answers. The main thing is to be serious and calm, as if you were casually paying attention to the offender. By demonstrating fortitude, you will emerge victorious from the skirmish while saving face.
5. Conclude with another thank you. Let him know that in the evening you will think about your own shortcomings and try to correct them in the near future. As practice shows, such an answer misleads boors. At the same time, all the “viewers of the show” will definitely take your side.

Method No. 5. Revelation

1. In most cases, insults in the family circle or among close friends can be eliminated in time if you bring the opponent to a frank dialogue. It is important to step over your pride and stop resisting, then start manipulating.
2. Let your loved one know that you are uncomfortable listening to these types of complaints. Try to find out what they are supported by. If the arguments are true enough, listen and draw conclusions.
3. If you're in pain, let me know. As a rule, most situations are resolved peacefully. If people are dear to each other, they will be able to find a solution to any problem.
4. If we are talking, again, about family or friends, try to forgive the offender in advance. You yourself understand that irritation and indignation do not appear out of nowhere. Since the person is dear to you, try to understand and forgive him.

Method number 6. Humor

1. Positivity is everything! The recommendation is especially relevant in cases with poorly educated or close people. A good joke or a positive reaction to an insult will smooth out rough edges.
2. To defuse the atmosphere, you need to have a sense of humor. When you repel attacks in this way, the other person will become confused. His concentration will be broken as the insults take a different turn.
3. Further development of the scandal will become irrelevant after both laugh at the joke. It is important to reflect negativity in a timely manner so that it does not develop into something more.
4. Of course, not all situations need to be laughed off. For example, if you were insulted on the way to work (in traffic or public transport), the best option would be to distance yourself. Move away from the offender, making it clear that his company is unpleasant for you.

Win-win phrases

There are many phrases that will help you emerge victorious from a conflict situation. You can remember the ones you like and then use them for their intended purpose.

1. “Excuse me, are you finished?”
2. “What a pity, I thought you were a man with brains!”
3. “I can say for sure that the image of a boor does not suit you! Although…"
4. “Dear, please slow down. I'm not your wife (brother, matchmaker)"
5. “By your tone, one can understand that you have confused the shores...”
6. “With your behavior, do you want to achieve the truth or a flattering answer?”
7. “Why would an educated person expose his shortcomings to everyone?”
8. “Don’t worry about me so much...”
9. “By getting personal, are you trying to compensate for your lack of intelligence?”
10. “Thank you for your interest in my person and life in particular. Your call is very important for us..."
11. “Why are you trying to offend me? Are you an energy vampire?
12. "Beautiful weather, isn't it?"

There are basic techniques that will allow you to save face and respond to insults with dignity. The most common options are boring, positive, ignoring, calm, gratitude and revelation. You will also find useful universal phrases that can be used in controversial situations.

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